We shouldn’t be doing what is “popular” or “convenient” but rather that which is right.
I believe that there are many sincere Christians who honestly think that if they just love everyone and act “Christian-ly” that will inspire people to follow Christ. It is good to love people and behave seemly but real love confronts. All the lost people around us have a disease, sin, and it is not only killing them but will have larger consequences in the scheme of eternity. There is, however, a cure and we can help get it to those who need it. The problem is that we don’t want to tell people that they have this disease and people who believe they’re healthy won’t see the need for the cure. This is what Jesus was saying in Matthew 9:12.
If you truly love someone, you care more about their well-being than about their opinion of you. For example, if you have a loved one who has a drinking problem you will not simply “be nice to them while acting sober” instead you will confront them with the problem. That would not be easy and would most likely make them upset with you. However, they need to recognize and admit that there is a problem for them to start looking for a solution. This is the exact same principles as confronting non-believers with sin, they need to see their predicament before they’ll seek the remedy.
Now this comes with a caveat, we are not here to condemn people. Jesus didn’t come to condemn the world (because it’s already condemned) but to bring salvation. We cannot go to people in self-righteous indignation but rather as people who once bore that very same disease. It is imperative that we tell them of God’s law that they are violating. Therefore, we must warn them of the consequences, not just of hell but eternal separation from God. Only when they recognize the serious peril they’re in will they look for a Savior.
Hebrews 10:14 states, “How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed? and how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard? and how shall they hear without a preacher?” The word preacher here doesn’t means the pastor of church but rather people who proclaim the Gospel of Christ. The real difficulty lies in the fact that many that claim to follow Jesus Christ aren’t willing to bring the true message of the Gospel to those who so desperately need it. Moreover, it seems that many are resistant to confronting people with sin and calling for repentance but instead just want to show love and kindness. However, real love confronts, and if there are lost people around you who will die and face eternal separation from God and you aren’t sharing the cure then you don’t really love them.